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Hello,my name is Sean Andrei B Gabuat and I'm 18 years old.I just want to say I hate my life,I can't think any positive thoughts of how can I enjoy my everyday life such as entertainment or even socializing to my friends.During Grade 10,I've been experiencing social anxiety and start to think any negative thoughts and overthink about how people judged me.I can't even look my teacher's face and classmates and every time I start to look at my teachers face my seatmate always look at me like they saying I'm staring at them.I know it's not a coincidence as it happened many times even not at school, it happened also during my free time.That time,it trigger something that I expected,anxiety and depression starting to develop,I even attempt suicide and thinking about it relaxed myself,I don't want people to be awkward by me just by looking at them.Many times happened about how people changed their attitude when they are around me like they feel disgusted or awkward,I started to feel that no one cares about me.I fucking hate my life haha..., there's a time I just want to listen to my teacher and every time I look at the table to copy notes,my seatmate always look at me like I'm staring at them even I'm not, im very nervous about it and I have to look down everytime I have to take a lesson and just pretend I'm sleeping. I don't know why but I fucking hate it.Everytime like every fucking time,I have to look down every fucking day.Know one knows my current condition and I know no one can't understand how I feel.I want to die without any pain and not cause any trouble.I want to FUCKING DIE PEACEFULLY.

i have severe social anxiety and this video inspired me to go take a random public bus ride just to walk back home at the next stop. not exactly at the level this guy is on but it felt like an accomplishment to me.

I loved the video. I have social anxiety too and it really cripples how I talk to people. I was in the police academy here in the states and the first time I had to public speak, I got so nervous I couldn't even get a word out. It was so embarrassing that I was probably red all over. My social anxiety is so bad that I dropped out of the academy. Being a cop is something I really want to pursue. Do you think toastmasters would help me? Have you seen anybody have anxiety since you've been a member? I just hate that feeling of embarrassment. I just don't wanna be the only one who needs serious work.

I’ve been dealing with this, don’t know if my new job triggered it. Would like to have classes if available!

Keep knocking on doors - great point is persistence, a heroic act. Thanks.

love from kerala ,india

Bro out of all the anxiety videos ive look up, you've explained everything spot on that goes through my head during anxiety....crazy...

Bro i thought i was the only one who thought that way dealing with my anxiety....

Bro idk why now it be wo complicated but before no one gaf cuz yesterday i was walking by my crush both crossing opposite paths i kept making so much head movement she probably thought i was obvious qnd now its like oh shit but crazy part is it be like this too when its a girl i dont like so idk if thats what happens and im afraid if i do like a 10 yr old thing or whatever girls gonna be like why he staring at me when i just tryna walk through man like damn

For me long 45 mins walks in nature have a really calming effect. But it needs to be in nature or a park. I practiced it before some social events, family gatherings and it makes a difference on the level of tension and perceived stress. The calming effect lasts many hours.

Thanks man❤ These words healed me💆and make me to improve from social Anxiety.

Buddhist Meditation is Great 🙏🙏🙏.

Left Eye to see is Good?

Idk why everyone wants to normalize eye contact, every animal disagrees with your view and will fight you if maintain more then 10sec of eye contact

Great advice, love these vids. Thanks

Wow, great video I'm going to check out your ebook. Considered doing a video of your top 10 to 20 books on psychology and social anxiety. You nailed it with an overly critical dad who was hidden Lee competing with us and sabotaging what we were trying to do .

I hate when people just death stare into your soul that’s when I gotta look away

How old are you? Have you struggled with loneliness?

What are your thoughts on affirmations I’ve been finding them cheesy to listen to and my brain won’t believe what I am saying have u had any success with it?

Thanks for the tips mate, appreciate your videos! I really need to get out of the comfort zone and just go to one of those group events. I must!

Absolutely true, but I also think you have to take small steps (especially at the start of dealing with the disorder) to avoid regression

introvert with social anxiety depression ,ibs issues, hemorrhoids age 40 jobless, unmarried, quit hectic job at 35 , life sucks. 🥶🤮🤢

Brother, I am 16 years old and I came to know that something called social anxiety also exists but when I came to know about it I came to know that I have this problem and I have had it since childhood. But i think I'm insecure about my weight that's why I'm afraid to talk to people i think they judging me by my looks but i overcome it by just living in present moment like i have maladaptive daydreaming habit so I'm in my head all day and that's why i get anxious around people cause I'm already in head, thinking they gonna judge me but when i started living in present moment i started to notice I'm Little so little comfortable around people because while living in present moment im focusing on my breath and not thinking they gonna judge me or any blah blah blah and after living in present moment for 4 days I'm back to my amazing fantasies in my head and once again social anxiety is coming. But from today i decided that I will live in present moment to destroy my social anxiety from root. I think it's esay for me to overcome because I'm not too old my mind was just like teenager's mind if i convince my mind that I don't have any anxiety & im comfortable around people then im gonna overcome my anxiety. What you think about this? Please help....

Thanks man 🎉🎉, I need your help that how can i change my negative beliefs like I think that i shouldn't have to be wrong and for this i always try to prove other wrong and try to defend myself and at last feel embarrassed on being wrong Another one is being poor is unworthy and i always try to hide from others that i am poor because i think i will not be accepted and i feel shame for being poor If others are not enjoying your company then its not their fault its mine and this makes me feel bad

what embarrasses me is not knowing what to say, staying silent and saying something stupid in order to finally say something. Also, I avoid these situations because I don't want anyone to ask me questions about my life as it is a life that I don't like and I don't want to talk to anyone

Sir can u tell me how this anxiety happens

I am from India. I followed you from past 1.5 years. But sir I really depressed due to this problem . I feel like I am not that type of person which I became today . I can't able to express my emotions through my words . People don't look at me , they avoid me because they think that when they look at me I am not able to eye contact with them ...

Today I managed to land a casual (very casual) date with a chick that makes me anxious when I see her, because she is so beautiful. Well, she cancelled, so I said I would still make it a victory by doing something that is very anxious inducing to me, but I need, and that was intimacy. and so is go visit a H00ker. So I did that, arranged the time, but while she was beautiful, the place was kinda creepy and it wasnt a very good conversationist. I couldn't get it up because of my low self esteem, and I didn't dare to be bold, state my sexual prefferences or funny. I acted like a prude virgin which I'm definitely not. (Have 2 relationships that lasted 1.5 years) And that is so frustrating to me. Despite my capacities I'm so tired having low self esteem, especially regarding other people, especially women, especially women I really like. It's been too long man. Sorry for the rant, it just happened so its still vivid. Edit: @thesocialanxietCoach I think your advice is very useful because I have that problem of expressing myself because, a lot of the time, I think people are too suceptible to hear my honest (not mean), serious, words. (I have a history of familiars that you can't tell them anything or they flip the F out).

Do you struggle with feeling socially awkward? What’s the most awkward situation for you?

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Great points , once you have been disappointed by people over decades it only makes sense to isolate, Especially if you are on the introverted side of the spectrum . Right ?

Hey Ed have you ever tried ifs therapy? I heard it heals past traumas. Did u have to heal past traumas to move forward beacuse I’m hearing that I have to go back and heal them to move forward but I kinda just want to move on and not rely on a therapist nor more.Exposure therapy has been helping me a lot

I thought the vision blurriness was just me. This was very helpful, thanks

great advice

Thanks a lot ❤for providing with great help and free resources.I read your ebook and workbook and i am good to go with that i am also getting self help from various resources,only difficulty i found is therapy is not affordable for me as a indian and also a student ,so how to change negative thinking and beliefs

I watched a couple of videos and am very thankful for technology. Anxiety kills in so many ways, and yet we dont talk about it out of fear. Thank you for sharing. Congratulations to anybody who is working towards making their life better with this and all anxiety disorders. It can turn ugly pretty fast. I have a few things I would like to add that may help. MY social anxiety was like OCD turned inwards. It turned every ANT into a roller coaster death spiral. I tried so many things. So many doctors dont know how bad this can get. It runs in families. It's genetic. It can lead to depression and giving up on life. It does NOT have to be that way. After 6 years of therapy and Doctor shopping, I found the root cause of MY anxiety, and it was ADHD. Expensive way to find the answer. Nobody would have guessed I had ADHD. I was a long distance runner ,swimmer, and bike rider to self medicate my anxiety and help focus my mind. It works for a time, but not forever. You can't run from fear PERIOD....ADHD medication calmed me down so much that MY social anxieties were almost non-existent. Karaoke was easy, and still, I sucked at it, but people came to me asking why it was so easy for me to be social. Night and Day. Your life will get better if you start searching and start doing like this gentleman says. Never give up. We all have something to share in this world. You will have setbacks. Otherwise, you are not on the right road.

Happy to meet you too!

Happy to meet today with us UA-camr Good luck!!

i'm sorry for your loss but the anxiety itself didn't really do it. It was his drug addiction. I have social anxiety problems and i deal with it naturally.

You are the hero that we all needed. It's crazy to see that this information isn't talked about enough and how deep it can get. Keep up the good work!

I'm sorry about your brother. Thanks for sharing brother

I'm sorry about your brother, may he rest in peace. Although I have a bachelor's degree in psychology, I am still struggling with intense social anxiety. In fact, it is a miracle that I graduated in this state, but I am now officially a psychologist and it is unbearable to be still so anxious in this state. But now I am determined, I will beat this disorder 💪🏻

r.i.p to your brother❤️i know what its like to have loved ones suffering from addiction

Powerful video mate. Thanks for sharing. How does one tell the difference between shyness and a social disorder?

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Any Book About Eye Contact?

I”m trying to Do Eyes Gazzing.

That is a very insightful video ive got to say. But one thing I wonder is that in my case at 30 and still struggling with social anxiety I am dealing with the same issues as I was as a child. Looking at my siblings the ones who were socially confident when children are still to this day while the ones who were shy are still dealing with that as adults. And the same pattern presents looking at people I know from growing up. So is this maybe inherint in our personalities as I don't see people change that over time and maybe its fixed in genes?

Eye contact makes me so uncomfortable unless it's with a close friend or partner